Awhile back at my main blog, I was recommend to single baby boomers that as a group of singles, they HAD to make a particularly concerted effort to expand their social circles. The reality is, the single baby boomers I have worked with and interviewed often have fairly small social circles. Their social circles are in something of a rut. If you are ever going to meet a NEW additional single boomer to love, than you must make a concerted effort. You canNOT just sit back on your laurels and wait for New Love to Come to You.
When I was in Sales at the Oracle Corporation in Silicon Valley, whose sales team is rather notorious in the software sales industry, “I eat my own dog food.” (arf arf!)
What that means is I am walking the walk. I am not just suggesting something without actually field research testing and vetting my advise. Because as a single boomer lady who has been widowed (I prefer to cite it that way so that it is not my perpetual IDENTITY) , honey, I am right in there with you and your dating experience.
So, here I am in Southern California in The OC for the Memorial Day Weekend. I am visiting with family, which getting the 5 of us together is rare, the 6 of together all at once takes an act of God (Wedding or a Funeral). So, to me, our group altogether time is very precious and I guard it like some parents guard their time with their children (totally understandable).
However, while I travel, I do look to see if there are people with whom I can deepen the relationship with some Face Time (I feel so 80s when I say that, but it even more a relevant term in the 21st c with all the Social Media relationships we have.). I have 2 women from college and a lady from an internet class I am taking. The latter is the one I am most hoping and putting the steps in place that we will meet.
And you’re laughing wondering what that has to do with dating.
Well, two things.
1st: FORM THE HABITIt's all about the HABIT I am forming. Make the effort all the time as my NORMAL mode of operandi.
2nd: Women Do It More Often
You see, women are more likely to fix singles up than men are. Additionally, I am in the greater REGION of where I now live, more so than when I lived in Northern California. So if I actually met someone around here... and we clicked... Well, then we could actually fairly reasonably date and form a relationship. In fact although you might not be thinking it, NorCal to SoCal is a lot further than The OC is to Vegas.
Here is an area which I visit, mmm, like once a month or so on average. So, it is worth my sowing seed here for expanding my social circle and dating sphere to here as well.
One couple, it was the man who came from Central CA to the SF Bay Area regularly. He kept his eyes open when he traveled and pursued a lady in San Francisco. They married 2 years ago and just had their first child together last Summer. … Just so you know this DOES work and produce the results which you want.
In the mean time…
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
Baby Boomer Dating Expert
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